Episode Transcript
[00:00:20] Speaker A: Welcome back to the Wild Within.
[00:00:21] Speaker B: My name is Jen and I am your host. Where we tell stories of how people have overcome obstacles to get to where they are. All of the amazing things that they've done in their lives, not just for themselves, but also for other people. Today I'd like to welcome Dr. Adil Dalil. He is the CEO of Pinnacle Processing Solutions. He is an award winning author and keynote speaker. He is also the host of the Superconscious Leader which will be hosted by NOW Media.
So without further ado, welcome.
[00:00:55] Speaker C: Thank you very much, Jen. What a pleasure being on with you. Thank you.
[00:00:59] Speaker B: Well, thank you for being here. You know, you have a lot of accolades. You are a leadership coach with expertise ranging from AI to human potential. You have over 100 global keynotes, speeches that you've delivered and also several awards. And so you have a lot of, a lot to back all the amazing things that you're going to talk about today. So it's an honor to have you as a guest and I'm really excited to have you here.
[00:01:27] Speaker C: Thank you, Jen. You know, back to you I think, as I said, is a wonderful story and I'm honored to be on this show. Thank you.
[00:01:37] Speaker B: Absolutely, thank you. Well, one of the things that we started talking about before the show was our show topics and how they kind of intertwined with things that we've talked about in the past. And one of the biggest things is believing in your worth when doubt takes over.
And I would love to just jump right in. But if you want to just start with what happens with doubt. Why does self doubt drown us from our dreams for reaching our true potential?
[00:02:08] Speaker C: This is a very important topic. In fact, I'm just, you know, one of my articles will be published in form, so I've written many articles.
The next one coming out will be called Unshakable. And it's about leadership. And this self doubt is a very, very important item which really holds us back. And in order to understand self doubt, what we need to understand is our brain.
So our brain technically is not, you know, wired for success, it's wired for survival.
So self doubt, what happens is in we technically have three parts to our brain.
There is a reptilian brain, which is basically the, the ancient brain, the, the old, you know, human being brain. Then there is another layer which is called the limbic brain and that regulates all our emotional activities. And the neocortex or the other new brain or the prefrontal cortex is what is.
Human beings have the most developed prefrontal cortex. Of all the beings on this planet.
So what happens is when self doubt is a ancient rewiring and when self doubt creeps in, it impacts area of our brain which is on the limbic, the emotional brain, which is called the amygdala.
And what it creates is the water scenarios.
So when, say I have sucked out, say, what if this happens? You know, say I'm, I'm doing the show. What if I, you know, forget what I want to say? Or what if I cannot be a great guest for you? Correct. Those things will always flood. That's, that's our ancient rewiring.
So what your brain is trying to do is promote safety over the possibility.
So this primal mechanism has to be overcome. We're not trying to save ourselves from lions anymore. Correct. We're trying to make some big decisions.
So the prefrontal cortex, which is the seat of imagination and goal setting, gets overridden when the amygdala takes over.
And that is why the dreams will start flowing, fading when the fear gets so loud.
So self doubt basically is about eliminating the outside noise and focusing on the inside voice.
And basically the, the truth there is, is to kind of bypass the outdated wiring which we have. So there are many techniques which can allow you to bypass that. And that is where you can overcome self doubt and truly live all your dreams.
[00:05:07] Speaker B: The whole time you're talking, I'm just so tuned in to all of it and the process because right out the gate you said survival, not success.
And so I'm like, how do I fix this? How do, how do I, how do I get through this? How do I, how do I get to that step where I don't feel like that? Because even for someone like myself, I've, I've done a lot of things, I've created a lot of my success and. But there is self doubt still, you know, is instilled in me. Even someone who has, you know, all of the accreditations and accolades and all of those things.
And you know, my, my brain instantly was like, okay, how, how do I rewire?
So that's going to be my next question to you is what are the steps that we can take to start getting there?
[00:06:03] Speaker C: So I think one of the tools which I think I just, you know, spoke about in my book is the visualization. So visualization is a, is an extreme, extremely powerful tool where it uses the brain's own operating system, but it uses a different operating system. So our brain has two operating systems. It's like an iceberg. We have a conscious, which we are right now talking. But there is deeper level, okay, almost 90% of it is like an iceberg below the ocean. We cannot see it. That is the subconscious.
And you cannot engage with the subconscious through language.
You need visualization, you need images, you know, so why is that? Let me explain. When we dream, do we dream in text, do we dream in music?
No, we're dreaming. An image is everything which comes is like a movie.
So that is your language of the subconscious.
So we are trying to, you know, kind of transform our identity from limitation to possibility using this technique.
So there is a tool called psycho cybernetics. And what it talking about is the goal. Your brain is actually a goal striving mechanism.
The key is it does not know whether you're actually looking at something or you're simulating it in the brain.
This is the major part is that what you see, your brain is actually like a black box.
That image gets transferred into your occipital lobe that is at the back of the brain. But in between, the processing system doesn't know what it's processing. So whether I see it through an outside area or I create that image in my brain, the occipital lobe doesn't know the difference.
So when you do this, a repeated imagery, okay, you're creating a self image.
The basically it becomes a golden key to human personality and behavior. So you can literally shift yourself, shift your personality, shift your identity, shift your behavior using this tool.
So why does this work? The science is there is a reticular activating system which is basically like a missile guidance system, just like we, we are talking about. You know, in the military they use a missile guiding system.
Once you visualize, you don't keep following that. You know, there is an AI built into it and it will automatically find its mark.
And when you're visualizing, you're also developing your motor cortex, means you're building a muscle memory. So a lot of. You know, one of the best examples or someone who really loved visualization was the God of golf, Jack Nicholas. One of his favorite favorite sayings was that I never hit a shot, not even in practice, without visualizing it in my head.
So just imagine, you know, that if sports people can do it, why not us, why not leaders?
So basically visualization just does not build your belief system. It truly builds your new identity.
[00:09:37] Speaker B: Listening to you talk. My, I'm a very visual person and I have a photographic memory.
And I, I'm a firm believer that if I see it, it exists. And you know, some people call it woo. But I do believe that there is a science back in it and you are proof, you're proof that it exists and that you know, when we believe something enough, it exists. And you know, some people, they do, they say to me, you know, when you say you're going to do something, you just go out and do it. I'm like, right, because I believe that it already exists. Fear still exists with inside of me. I'm still scared, I still have self doubt. But I always say I'm going to do it. I'm not sure how I'm going to get there yet or how we're going to make it happen. But I do personally, I see it. And so with that being said, I'm going to ask you a question that we didn't necessarily talk about beforehand but with that same thought process, our leaders who have either a photographic memory or very visual to begin with, are they typically more successful than people who aren't visual thinkers because they already have that vision, mindset where they believe in it and it exists.
[00:10:54] Speaker C: Excellent question, Jen. And so yes and no. Why is it yes and no? Because leaders, the role of leaders is to show the team the path. Correct. So if you can visualize it then you can explain to the team, but what do you do with that vision? Correct. A lot of times what leaders do is they see a vision and then they have self doubt.
Correct. Oh, last time I visualized that didn't happen this way.
So when self doubt creeps in, you're taking one step forward, two step backwards.
So it is building that memory, building that confidence of using this tool in a very positive way.
So leaders who learn to use that. In my case I, you know, basically found out very early on through an assessment I was taking that my top strength is futuristic, I can see the future, I can visualize things. And I looked at what I was doing and I'm saying I'm running this a billion dollar program.
I'm not using any software. You know, at the most I use Excel or other tools. How am I able to do that? So I actually re engineered that and I created a workshop and I wrote this book on the V factor, on how people can duplicate, how leaders can use this and how we as common people can use this to get better in what we do. You know Jen, because AI is on us. People are not understanding what AI is going to do to humanity.
[00:12:34] Speaker B: It's changing so fast.
[00:12:36] Speaker C: It is.
Absolutely. And so yes, leaders need to use this tool. Absolutely. And if they need to believe in themselves of using this tool. So no, using it in the right way is the, is the, is the formula. And that is exactly why I wrote this book, is to show people that there is a way out, there is a way to compete with AI, there is a way to reach your full potential, but you cannot use the same tools you've been taught in management schools and other universities. You need a different way.
[00:13:11] Speaker B: I think that makes sense, especially right if we're changing with the times. Right. And we're not staying stagnant and we want to continue to evolve, to learn. And I feel like I'm on that cusp. It's like I'm dipping my toe in and I'm like, I'm going to get there. And you know, even just hearing you talk about this book, I'm like, oh, I can't wait to read it. Because I know it's something that's very intriguing to me. And you know, it's, there's just, there's something, there's something about it and there's something about that mindset shift that for myself personally, just listening to you talk, my brain is like going all over the place.
And you know, before we cut to the next segment, I would love to just hear about a time that you helped somebody change their thought process.
[00:14:02] Speaker C: Wow.
So I had, as you mentioned, I'm an executive coach. I had a person who was very successful in what they did, but they also had a significant amount of self doubt.
They always, they. She was, you know, divorced, she was having a young kid and she was always, you know, feeling that she's not able to kind of live up to what others are, are looking from her for. The boss wanted her to, you know, speak in a certain way, talk in a certain way. And using visualization, I was able to comp. Completely shift her personality. And it, it was not overnight. It took a few, you know, sessions with her, but I made her kind of look for a version 2 offer.
Correct. So let's say her name is Susan.
I created a Susan version two of her. And she was. The Susan version two was so much amazing, so much more. And she looked at that as a mirror and looking at that, she worked towards reaching that goal. And within a few months you could see that transformation happen. She became more confident, she could speak in front of crowds, she could basically even kind of lead teams in a better way. And not only that, her daughter started looking up to her and she actually commented, mom, you seem very different.
And to me that was a very powerful statement coming from someone close to her because Children perceive things in a very different way. And I saw that as a successful coaching.
[00:15:58] Speaker B: I love that. And just I wrote down Gen 2.0 and in my head I was like, I can change some of these things. And you know, we, we say to ourselves, sometimes I, you know, I can change within a certain perimeter, but what's, what's to stop me from changing all of the things that I would like to do a little bit better or change, you know, to be a little bit more subtle or whatever, but that. My brain has just lit up this first segment and I am so excited to continue our conversation. When we come back, we're going to dive a little bit deeper, so stay tuned.
Welcome back to the wow within. I'm Jen Pottery host and I'm joined with Dr. Adil Dalal and he has blown my mind. So thank you so much for being back on the show.
And we were just, you know, recently talking about fear and not being able to move forward with things that we truly want to do to be successful. And so thank you for being on the show. And I want to jump right in because I feel like when I, when you're talking it just, the segment goes by super quick. And the thing that we talked about on the break was fear. And you've written several articles previously, one of them informs about fear. And what is it about fear that's so powerful that stops us from getting to our most successful self?
[00:18:07] Speaker C: Wow, excellent question.
So first of all, fear, the fear, what does that state stand for?
There are two definitions of fear.
One is forget everything and run or face everything and rise.
So it depends which one you select, right? And why is it so powerful in stopping us? Because fear, when you look at it, or forget everything and run again, as we talked about the previous segment of the brain, it actually hijacks the brain decision making system, which is our prefrontal cortex.
So fear, when fear takes over, what happens is it triggers a fight or flight response, which is our ancient survival mechanism. That is what, you know to, to avoid predators or, you know, whatever is coming our way. It was allowing us to be safe. But today, in a business sense, that mechanism can actually stop us from achieving our goals. Correct. So that is what stops us from trying.
So how do we overcome that use?
Look at fear as a yield sign, not as a stop sign.
Correct. A yield sign says stop and go.
Stop sign says, hey, you're, you're here. Just wait till the signal gets green.
But if you use it as a yield sign, you know, sometimes fear, even in today's date is legitimate, right?
You can use fear to your advantage, but don't let it stop you. That is the main thing.
So according to neuroscience, if you were able to recognize that fear, reframe it, name something to it that, yes, I acknowledge this is a fearful situation.
It actually reduces the the impact of fear.
And when you then take start using visualization to kind of overcome that failure, convert it into success, you have just converted that fear into long term success.
So bottom line, fear is not a flaw. It's a feedback mechanism.
And the moment you act otherwise, it loses control over you.
That is the secret.
[00:20:41] Speaker B: I love that. And that visual representation of the guild sign, for me, it was like that flashing yellow and just being able to see that for a second. And you know, again, you're speaking to my visual brain. So my brain is like, all right, pick up on all of these awesome things that you're talking about so I can implement them. And so for myself, things like that help me because I am already pretty visual. But what are some other good tools that other people can use as well to kind of help visualize a little bit better to overcome those fears?
[00:21:19] Speaker C: So visualization is, I think, the best tool for this.
There is another one which I will talk about later, but let's talk about visualization. What does visualization do? It turns fear into familiarity.
Correct. So when your brain is designed to protect us from the unknown, that's why the fear thrives in uncertainty. That's what I said is the forget everything and run. Because you don't know what's coming your way. Right? You don't know what's going to happen. The uncertainty is there. And that uncertainty is what creates the fear within us. Okay. Another definition could be false expectation appearing real.
That is another definition of fear. So sometimes we don't know what to expect. And that creates, you know, that uncertainty within us. And we feel the, the, the feeling of fear. So when you visualize a scenario, whether it's through speech, a tough conversation, or a leap forward, you make the unknown into the known.
When you shine light on something where something is in the corner, you don't know if it's a stick or a snake. As soon as you shine light on it, the unknown becomes known. Correct. And if it's a stick, you're not afraid. If it's a snake, you take the proper precaution against it.
So this reduces the amygdala's threat response and it allows your prefrontal cortex to now make the decisions.
This is where your courage will come from you can focus and your logic comes alive. It's a snake. Let me take the, you know, kind of preventative measures to, you know, not let it strike me. So your, your decision making takes over.
So basically, visualization is like a mental stress rehearsal.
And again, as we said, the brain doesn't know the difference whether you're looking at something or you're not. So you are, what you're doing is you're building a emotional muscle memory in this.
So you are, as you are doing this, your confidence is building. Every step you're taking into this, you are building a confidence. So visualization is not used to erase the fear. It trains your brain to walk through the scenario, clarify things and eliminate the confusion which you may have.
[00:23:51] Speaker B: And you know, the whole time you're talking about this, I'm listening very eagerly, right? And trying to figure out for myself how, how that's going to change the course of even deci. Like I'm thinking business decisions, other things. My brain is going all over the place when, when you're, when you're saying all of these things because fear does exist and, but you want to, you want it to not be so loud. You want to take those steps, right? I think I would like to think that everybody has that same feeling inside that they want to take the leap, right? But sometimes taking the leap and, and I feel like for myself personally, I've done a lot of those things. But then I'm like, oh, but wait, stop. Take your time, think about it. And you know, there, I'm sure that there are some steps that, you know, are. That we can take to get there in baby steps. So if I was taking baby steps, I feel like I'm more of a leaper. But if we were taking smaller steps, what are, what are some things that we could do daily or weekly to start to train our brain to, to feel a little bit more comfortable, especially for someone who's a little bit more reserved.
[00:25:04] Speaker C: Very good question. I think, you know, what you're asking is how do we translate this into real life? And which is what this whole thing is about is right? How do I actually use it on a day to day basis? And one of the small step you can take is practice something called a deliberate com.
What is. Let me give you an example of what. Who use deliberate crown. And then we can get into the, the mechanics of this. So if you remember Captain Sully Sullenberger, right, he had 155 lives on board and Canadian geese attacked us. That was the only time that Canada Attacked us.
So.
And both engines went out. And that was a joke. Please, Canada has never attacked us.
So basically, you know, he lost power to both the engines. Now just think you are in that spot, what would you do?
Did you know Captain Sully Sullenberger was an Air Force pilot? And deliberate calm is taught to them. What that does is they take a pause. They don't allow the amygdala to take over.
Right. So they, they allow. There is a process of going through, of a breath exercise, acknowledging what is happening, visualizing the move and acting with the purpose.
And that is the only reason he, within that 208 critical seconds after both engines were failing.
You know, obviously he was fearful. There is no human being who would not get fearful in that. But he knew how to overcome them. So Sully didn't panic. He practiced deliberate calm. He paused the panic which was could have happened. He took a deep breath, regulating his nervous system. He regained the control over the situation.
He focused on the facts. Correct. Instead of thinking about oh my God, we're crashing, he said, how do I solve this problem?
Correct. In a simulator he's done this. But this type of situation is, is a very, very rare situation.
Correct. Because there is no land to land on. He was, you know, going to be on water, so he didn't know what are the options.
But he took action. He took intentional action. With a laser focus and calm execution, he was able to safely ditch the aircraft without any fatality. So what do you learn from this?
What do we learn from this example is that fear spikes are inevitable. No matter if you're the captain or you're ordinary, you know, kind of a worker be you're going to face fear sometime in your life or regularly in your life. But when you are able to breathe, use your breath to kind of. And there, there is a, there is a physiological reaction which happens which I don't want to get into right now. But there are some chemicals released and there are actions which happen, you know, if you, if you allow fear to take over. And so when you breathe slowly, when you acknowledge that yes, there is a fear to this, you know, there is a situation which I'm fearful about, but you are not letting it overcome you. You are visualizing your next move, you're moving on, saying yeah, I have a problem, but what do I do with it? And then you're actually acting with purpose. That is the key. Taking some bold steps to overcome them. That is a day to day tool you can use which will help you.
[00:28:57] Speaker B: That was fantastic. And just you know, when you, when you were talking about that, the first thing I thought of, no pun intended, fight or flight. Right. And I think of some of the emergency situations that I have personally been in, and I started to think about it, all of a sudden you go into, I have to protect, I have to survive. And so you go into that mode automatically.
And then I just, I wrote down deliberate calm. Is this something. How can I practice this? Because I'm the first person that goes, oh, my goodness, the world is going to collapse. And then I'm like, take a deep breath and walk yourself through it. Because fear, it doesn't. It does exist. And I feel it myself. And I'm the first person that, you know, executive functioning shuts down right away for me personally, because I get so overwhelmed, but then I stop and I breathe. But all the things that you were saying, I'm like, oh, I do a lot of these things. So I can confirm that a lot of the things that you spoke about are things that I felt, wow, that's. That was really amazing. And I feel like I can talk to you all day. So I'm going to have to steal some of your time off air. But I would love for you to tell our audience a little bit about the book that you are writing, how they can get it, as well as the Forbes article, because I'm looking forward to reading that as well.
[00:30:13] Speaker C: Well, sure, absolutely. So again, Jen, thank you for this invite. It was truly a pleasure. And, you know, you have a great story and I really encourage people to kind of listen to the show with that story because I think you've overcome a lot of these things yourself.
So the V Factor book was. Came about, actually, I started that book 12 years ago.
And, you know, there was a lot of deep research. I'm not a neuroscientist, but I had to go in and really do deep research into that area.
But I came out with something which can really help, you know, the future generations of human beings, of leaders to not only be better at what they do, better human beings, but, you know, at that time, when I started writing 12 years ago, AI was not such a big factor.
Today, it's going to be a huge factor. And now I understand why the universe made me wait for 12 years, because this is the right time for that book.
So, you know, it's available.
What's that? Perfect timing.
You just have to wait sometimes. And that's what happened, you know, and so, yeah, I mean, you know, this is my sixth of the seventh book, so I have One more book coming out on AI and very glad that it got published and really hope it helps millions and millions of people.
[00:31:46] Speaker B: Well, I can't wait to read it and thank you again so much. And you are going to be a host on NOW Media tv. So I'm very excited to welcome you to the family. I can't wait for that show to air as well. So make sure you follow along and all the great things to come. So thank you so much and I look forward to talking to you again soon.
[00:32:07] Speaker C: Thank you, Jen. Thank you for your time. Appreciate it.
[00:32:09] Speaker B: You're very welcome.
[00:32:44] Speaker A: Welcome back to the wow Within. I'm Jen Potter, your host, where we talk with different guests about all of the things that they have gone through in their life to get to where they are today.
The highs, the lows, and all of the challenges in between. I was joined by Dr. Adil, who is a specialist and a doctor in changing the way we think about how we create our futures. And it was funny when I was talking with him, he mentioned that we can always create our own version of ourselves over and over and over again, any way that we want, at any point in time. And this is something that I truly believe in. There's something about being able to be in control of our own life and our own destiny that just, it just hits me. And there are so many people that just really believe that, you know, they are where they are, they have no control over anything and they're stuck. And for me, it's super heartbreaking.
And when I was talking with Dr. Adil, we talked about how if we can truly believe it exists, then therefore it exists. And that is something that I talk to my friends, my family and my clients about all of the time. I firmly believe that you are exactly where you're supposed to be at all points in time, however you choose to be where you are. And that is something that is so unbelievably powerful. And when you truly believe it and trust the process, then those things start to actually open up and become obvious to us. And when we're stuck in the day to day and we're stuck in the place of I don't know if I can do this, I can't get that job, I can't leave this relationship, we're stuck in a rut over and over and over again. But it's up to ourselves to break the cycle, to change, to get to where we want to be.
And I mentioned when we were talking about vision boards, right? That's a perfect example. By creating A vision board and being able to have something that gives us an idea of what we want, it really, truly helps to manifest that next step. But I want to go a little bit further. One of the things that I do is not just a vision board. I actually walk myself through what it is I want, where I want to be and, and how I would like to get there. Now, the road isn't always going to be that simple. Ideally, what I like to say, I'd love to be a millionaire and not work the rest of my life. But no, in order to be a millionaire, I have to work really hard to get there. But I know that there's steps to getting there. And then it's creating a process of how I'm going to get to that next step.
So when we think about changing our lives, I want to just stop for a minute and say, okay, self assessment.
What it is, what is it that I want right now?
It could be a relationship, it could be a job, it could be a change.
Whatever that may be, I want you to think about it. Just stop for a moment. When I say I want to change my life or, or I want something, what was triggered? What thought? Like, clearly I can't hear you. I don't know what you're thinking, but you do. And, and there's a thought that was triggered. Hold on to that thought. Because it's that thought that you're already starting to go, I want that bigger house. I want that bigger job. I. I want a different job.
I want a different relationship.
It's those things that your subconscious is already starting to go.
This is something that I want.
Now the next step is the manifestation part, right? Our self doubt, just like Dr. Adil said, will always stop us. No, you can't do that. No, you're not capable of doing this.
That fear and that doubt is inside our brains. There is nothing holding me back from standing up and getting out of my chair at this moment. I'm sitting here because I truly want to be sitting in front of this camera having this conversation with you. So I'm staying here and I'm choosing to be here. But at any point in time, if I don't feel comfortable, I can get up and I can walk away, I can shut off my camera and I can end the conversation. Right? So many times we think that we have to stay in a situation, we have to stay in a conversation, we have to stay at a job because we have to now. Taking care of our family, paying our bills, those are all things that are really Important, but we create our own destiny. We create our own opportunities. You want a job?
That's not the job you have? Apply to 100 other ones. Nothing is stopping you to apply to all of those other jobs. There are jobs across the entire country.
Go online, Apply, apply, apply. There's nothing stopping you from doing that. So when you say you don't have an opportunity, the only person that's stopping you from that opportunity is yourself. And that goes for every instance. Friendships, significant others, jobs, etc. And I'll always talk about all of those things because we're all in different places. You may have the best relationship ever, but, but you may hate your job.
So that could, that could be one of the things that you might want to personally work on. But visualization is so unbelievably important. And when I talked to Adil, he listened to a previous podcast that I did, and he was telling me how he listened to it and, and, you know, gave me some feedback on it. And I really, I really was, I felt really good about all of the compliments that he gave me because everything that he was talking about in his segment were things that I did touch upon.
I have all of these opportunities because I personally created them. I believed that I could do that. I came from nothing. And I was sitting thinking about this actually yesterday, and I was, I was, in a moment, I, I was tired, I was exhausted. I was running all over the place. And I stopped for a second and I said, damn, I'm in a place. And then I looked around and I said, wow, I, I, I have a place to live. I have hot water. I have this. I have all of these things.
And I may not be where I want today, and that's just because I chose to be where I am.
But I know that I have the opportunity to change those things. What? I came from where I was. And it was ironic.
It's not a coincidence. I had to have a conversation with a friend later on in the evening about something very similar. He was in a place. He was stressed out. I can't. I can't do this. I can't make money. Everything's going wrong.
Everything was negative.
And for a split second, I stopped and I said, oh, Debbie Downer. And then I said, wait, we can, we can change this. And I said, have you read the book the Magic? And he said, no. And I said, I'm going to send you this book, and if you want to continue to, you know, work with me, you need to read this book, because this book is going to be something that's going to change your life. And it's inside this book. It gives you 28 days of visualization manifesting the life of your dreams. I carried this book around with me for five years. I've probably talked about it on this show or one of my last shows. It's something that I have so ingrained in my brain that if you can visualize it, it exists. I actually have a check written out. It's called the universal check. It's on the side of my desk, and it has a dollar amount on it. And I'm looking at that dollar amount right now, and I'm saying to myself, this is how much money I'm going to make this year. For two years in a row, I hit the goal on that check. So I upped it and I opt it. And I continue to say, I'm gonna do that. You're gonna think about it, and then you're gonna put steps together on how to get there.
But when I talked to him yesterday, it was, I can't. I can't, I can't. And I said, the car may not work, but you have a house.
You have a car that just may need to be fixed. You have hot water, you have your children, you have your health. And while you may say you have no money to your name, I guarantee that there's change lying around your house, which means that at some. In some capacity, you have some type of money. And it's changing our thought process in order to manifest positive things.
And, you know, at the end of the conversation, I felt. I felt the energy shift. And, you know, it's. It's having that mindset, it's having that thought process. It's saying to yourself, if I put out positive energy, positive energy comes in. If I think about all the negative, all the negative comes in. And in order to change our thought process, we get to first start thinking about the abundance that we already create.
And by being able to say, I have my house, I have my luxuries, I have my computer, I have my cell phone. My bills are paid. You know, maybe half of them aren't paid, but I still. I have a job in order to pay for them. So I want you to just stop when you're in your head and you're. You're stressed out, and you want to just say, I just don't have anything.
Be grateful for all the things that you do have. Be grateful for. For the clothes. Be grateful for the.
[00:42:38] Speaker B: The house.
[00:42:38] Speaker A: Be grateful for, you know, the friendships. Be grateful for, for everything that you have.
Because I know it can be hard.
But we have the opportunity to visualize the life of our dreams and stop wanting other things.
Be present, be in the moment. When we come back, we're going to talk about how fear, fear does have a big factor in that and what we can do to work on our fears in order to continue to create the life of our dreams. We'll be right back.
Welcome back to the WOW Within. I'm Jen Potter, your host and we have been talking with Dr. Adil and also some of my own commentary about visualization, self doubt, fear, and how we can overcome those things to manifest the life of our dreams or as Dr. Adil would say, our 2.0 version of ourselves. And at any point in time, we can recreate the person that we are. We're so stuck in our ways sometimes that we forget that we have the choice. I even have a tattoo on me that says I choose.
Because I like to constantly remind myself as a visual person that everything I do, it's my choice. If I'm sitting somewhere and I don't want to be there and I tell myself, you know what? Why did I do this? And I look at my arm and it says, I chose to be there. And it's the gentle reminder that you have the choice to do everything that you are consciously doing.
So we talked about self doubt, we talked about visualization, how we can change our mindset that negative to positive, putting positive energy into the universe in order to create a positive return.
Now you can put all the positive energy into the universe that you want.
We can't control outside factors. So this entire week it has just been shook up with all kinds of other people's problems. However, I also chose how I reacted to them. So that's something to really think about. When we're thinking about visualization and we're thinking about our path and going to where we want to go, sometimes things are going to come up that are out of our control.
But it's important to constant consciously think about how we're handling those situations. If you're in a positive mindset and someone gets you upset, consciously saying to yourself, I'm going to take a break and I'm going to go back and have a conversation before I jump into fear. I will tell you that something that I did this week, I'm learning a lot more about myself every single day. And one of the things that I realized is I get super overstimulated very quickly. And even when recording segments and being on shows and all of those things, I may get worked up because something had to change. And then I have to stop and say, okay, give me a moment. Let me recalibrate and come back. And I find that that part of restrategizing visualization and change and positive mindset truly help you to be successful and continue in a happy, positive mindset.
But one of the things I wanted to touch upon was when Dr. Adil talked about fear. Why is it so powerful from stopping us from trying? Right. We talk about fight or flight.
Our bodies are naturally designed to say, whoa, t. Is that gonna hurt us? If it's gonna hurt us, I don't want to do it. But we're evolving, and we're growing. And, you know, when I think of fear, I always think of heights, right? That's something that a lot of people are scared of. And, you know, jumping off cliffs into water and stuff like that, I don't think I'm brave enough to do that. I watch people do it all the time. And then I. I stop and I say to myself, wow, that is definitely fearful. I would love to not be scared to jump off a ledge into the water.
And then I take it a step further, and I go, do I want to jump off the ledge? My response is no.
I want to be able to be fearless enough to jump off the ledge. But to be perfectly honest, I have no, no desire to jump off the ledge. Just like bungee jumping. Absolutely not. It's, do I want to do it? The answer is no, because I don't want to bounce up and down and feel like I'm going to puke. And while I'm sure it's exhilarating, there's nothing about me that says, you know what? I want to do it. Other. And, yeah, there's a fear component to it, but it's also something I don't want to do.
So think about those things when you think about fear, and it starts to change your perspective a little. Now hear me out.
You can be scared to do something, and if you don't want to do it, that is your instinct saying, don't do it.
Listen to that.
I don't want to jump off a ledge. I have no desire to jump off a ledge. I'm terrified to jump off the ledge. There's nothing about me that's saying, hey, jump off the ledge. That is my internal voice, my mind, my spirit, all of those things telling me, you know, you don't need to do it.
Now say, one of my biggest things was, I've Always wanted to talk on a stage, which I, I've done hundreds of times.
But when I wanted to do it, before I did it at all, I was so, so nauseated at the thought of walking on stage. However, I was so excited about it. I was so like, oh, my goodness, I want to do that. I want to get on a stage, I want to talk in front of all of these people. But holy hell, this is terrifying.
That is something I want you to listen to think about it. Jumping off the ledge, terrifying, hard. No.
Getting on stage, doing something I want to do, and being fearful, that's something I want you to tap into.
Does it seem exciting? Because fear and excitement do the exact same thing to your brain. When you are excited about something, you can also be fearful about it. But if you start thinking of going, I'm not scared, I'm excited. I'm genuinely excited to get on stage and do, do all of those things.
I know that when I get on stage, I get to inspire and motivate people. That is my driving force. That is my visualization to take my, my fear and put it on the back burner. Am I still going to be a little nervous? Yeah, absolutely. Did you know I get nervous even when I record this, the show? Why do I get nervous? I have no idea. Because while thousands and millions of people actually listen to me talk, I don't have to see any one of you. I literally see a camera screen and I get to talk to the producer in my ear, but there's nobody else that's here in front of me. But yet I still get a little nervous and I say, jen, what is there to be nervous about?
And then I go and I do it. And, you know, it's funny, the person that truly helped me to step out of my shell, whether they acknowledge it or notice that or not, it was when I met Mel Robbins and it was at the peak of her career, right before her TV show started. I met her and I had a few conversations with her. I sat down with her for actually some time with a few other people and, you know, talked about my story and, you know, what it is that I was doing and also my goals and my aspirations. And it was a really beautiful conversation because it really made me say, wow, this person, person who has such a presence is so down to earth and so normal, like all of us, and. But yet she's changing millions of lives. And, you know, she wrote the book the 554321, among many other ones like her new one, the let them Theory. And, you know, there was something about meeting her and saying, well, if she can do it, I can do it. And it was after that a event that I met her. I took stage again and I went and I talked in front of a bunch of people, and it was all that fear just disappeared. It was as if, you know, something just said, hey, you got nothing to worry about. Because I put it out into the universe. I put it out there. I, I talked to other people who affirmed that it's not something to be scared of. And so I think when we have fears, I, I think it's facing the fear.
Not jumping off the ledge if it's scary and dangerous, but jumping off the ledge if it's exciting and exhilarating and you know that you're, you're making changes in your life, and that goes right back to the job. If you don't like your job, quit it, leave it. Start a new business. Nothing's stopping you. If you aren't happy in your relationship, reassess your relationship, your friendships. Who do you surround yourself with? I'm a quirky, odd individual.
And sometimes I. I know that I'm not for everybody and, and it's okay if somebody doesn't want to be friends with me or hang out with me or, etc, but it's just knowing that I have this opportunity to be able to be the person that I want to be, be and surround myself with the people that I want to surround myself with. If you around people who are sucking the energy out of you, you have the opportunity to change it. If you're scared to lose a friend, are you scared to lose them? Because you just, you don't, you don't want to hurt their feelings. Whose feelings are more important? People? Yours or theirs? I mean, let's be real. You are the only person that lives in your head. And if you have to live with the consequences of your. Your actions day in, day out, think long and hard about it, all of the things included. I think it's important to think about where you are and where you want to be. And if you're where you are and where you want to be right now, that's amazing. Be present. Be in this moment. I can honestly say, yes, there are things that I want in life, but I am truly content where I am, despite the chaos that I'm constantly going through. So it's important to think about those things.
Visualize, visualize, visualize. I always do vision boards. It's something that's so big for me. I always believe in manifestation positive action and listening to that gut feeling that says, yes, this is something to be scared of, or yes, this is dangerous, this is exciting, this is not, not dangerous, etc. So listen to the voices that are talking to you and really start to change the way you think.
It was a pleasure having Dr. Adil here today. I love talking to him and talking about all of the things that he's doing. He's written several articles for Forbes. That one. Another one just came out. I can't wait to read it. I look forward to many conversations with Dr. Adil and other people who have amazing stories just like yourself. So if you have an amazing story or you have something that you want to talk about, I'd love to have a conversation with you. I'm Jen Potter with the wow within, and I look forward to seeing you soon. Have a great day.
